We Only Fall in Love with 3 People in Our Lifetime—Each One for a Specific Reason.



“Love is just a word until someone comes along and gives it meaning.” ~ Unknown

It’s been said that we really only fall in love with three people in our lifetime.

Yet, it’s also believed that we need each of these loves for a different reason.

Often our first is when we are young, in high school even. It’s the idealistic love—the one that seems like the fairytales we read as children.


This is the love that appeals to what we should be doing for society’s sake—and probably our families. We enter into it with the belief that this will be our only love and it doesn’t matter if it doesn’t feel quite right, or if we find ourselves having to swallow down our personal truths to make it work because deep down we believe that this is what love is supposed to be.

Because in this type of love, how others view us is more important than how we actually feel.

It’s a love that looks right.

The second is supposed to be our hard love—the one that teaches us lessons about who we are and how we often want or need to be loved. This is the kind of love that hurts, whether through lies, pain or manipulation.

We think we are making different choices than our first, but in reality we are still making choices out of the need to learn lessons—but we hang on. Our second love can become a cycle, oftentimes one we keep repeating because we think that somehow the ending will be different than before. Yet, each time we try, it somehow ends worse than before…continue reading: elephantjournal


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    • Aniket
      • Danna
      • Kosaphia
      • Penny
    • aniel
      • Lauri
        • Tim
          • Dezi
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    • aniel
    • Rebel
    • amanda
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    • S
    • chutchinson
    • Radhika
    • Kristen
  4. Michael Tiemesmann
    • Tracy Drewett
  5. Reese
  6. Ren
    • Kenny Evans
  7. Kendra
  8. Hitesh Nariani
  9. Adrian
  10. Rebel
  11. MelAnn
  12. Angela
  13. Tiara
  14. Andrew
  15. Andrew
  16. Penn
  17. Brittany
  18. me
  19. Amino
  20. Stacy
  21. Elina
  22. Stephanie
  23. Krs
  24. cale
  25. Sophia
  26. Bonnie
  27. Adam
  28. R
  29. Hannah
  30. Ren
  31. Tanya
  32. Nikky
  33. Alex
  34. Anya
  35. Hannah Heskett
  36. Arielle Louise Baradi
  37. Louis
  38. Tina
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