For some people it is freedom, for some it is some tangible possession and for some it is a person. They are not exactly our weaknesses, but things without which we feel incomplete therefore not very secure. With those things, we feel complete and our insecurities get buried somewhere. Judging from your zodiac signs, here are the things that most probably trigger your insecurities, make you uncomfortable and how can you overcome them without doing much.
Settling for boring haunts you and gives you nightmares since you have always known to be the adventurous kind. You travel a lot and always go out of your way to do things that are thrilling and make you appreciate life so the mere thought of sitting at home and never being able to hit the road again makes you feel insecure. Adventures are your identity so losing those means losing your identity. You fear that people around you won’t find you interesting anymore. The solution to this triggered insecurity is that you try to make normal things exciting; change your definition of normal and try to have fun in the small things that you can afford for the time being.
Being a Taurus, you are habitual of putting other people first so when life puts you on a stage where you have to choose yourself over others, you freak out and start feeling really insecure. You wonder if the world will call you selfish if, for once, you decide to look over others’ needs for the sake of your own. Sometimes, you are incredibly selfless, so much that you tend to deprive yourself of some great opportunities. The solution to this unjustified insecurity is that you try to put your own needs first and understand the fact that you are somewhat more important than the people around you.
You are the one who preaches about taking life lightly and laughing a lot so when life gives you lemons and you find yourself being more worried than you have ever been, you feel insecure. The worried and anxious you is not the real you. You freak out when you, the one who maintained peace in all situations, is fretting about something. The solution to getting over this insecurity is to understand that life can be hard on all of us. Nothing ever stays be it good times or bad. It is okay to be anxious and what will make you a more practical person is that you try to overcome that anxiety with that positive attitude of yours.
Love and care are all you have to give even when people don’t ask for it. You are the one to voluntarily solve people’s problems and help them see the bright side. It is possible that you feel unwanted some day and the thought of people getting annoyed by your help might make you feel insecure.
Your intuitive nature might give you the false notion of people getting annoyed by you. Do not let doubts get the better of you. Continue doing the good deeds as long as someone deliberately tells you not to. Your helping nature is what the world needs. Try to find more positivity in people and, if it helps, ask them one to one if your help annoys them to ward off the doubts.
You are the ambitious one. Your creativity, success and motivation define you according to you and the thing that is most likely to make you feel insecure is failing. You might pay attention to success only, at times, and fail consequently. As a result of which you can grow some serious doubts about yourself and your likability. Somewhere at the back of your head you have connected your success with the love you receive. In order to get over the insecurities, break that connection and work hard only for result of it and not for the sake of love and attention. Being a Leo, this tactic can greatly help you get over your insecurities.
Order and setting make you feel like yourself and help you keep your calm. Whenever something goes off track and you are not given the chance to be the one to organize everything, you start feeling self-conscious. Whenever someone asks you what is new with you, you find it difficult to keep the conversation going in fear of boring them since you do not have much to talk about. One way to get over this fear of personal mess is to understand that people like you for you and not for the things you say. It is normal to sometimes let some mess be created and procrastinate just to accept the opposite side of you. It can be hard but it will help you learn more about people who have a different disposition than you.
You expect people to definitely like you and respond to you with empathy, not because you are proud of yourself but because you think you are outgoing and are used to bringing people together; you are the friend who holds the group together. When a person acts cold and does not pay attention to what you have to say or do, it really gets to you. Nothing makes you feel more insecure than that person who just does not care. What you need to learn is that not every other person has heart enough to welcome every person coming their way. Fellow humans can be rude at times for various reasons and by allowing them to kill your positive energy you will be depriving all the other people who enjoy your company of that energy.
Knowledge is what keeps you confident at all times and helps you deal with new people. You are good as long as you know all about everything before going into that room full of new people. You are good to go on the trip as long as you have a map with all the possible routes to reach the destination. You are good as long as you have information. And as soon as you find yourself stuck somewhere due to lack of knowledge, you lose your calm. You feel insecure when your course of action gets broken and you start feeling uncomfortable in your own skin. You need to know that we all make mistakes and blunders can be taken care of. It is okay to be lost as long as you know how to find a way to be found again. If you’re planning on dating a Scorpio then you should know the 15 Brutally Honest things about Scorpios.
You feel this pressure to be there for people when they are stuck with something and if you are not, you feel straightaway unneeded. That is not the case but you feel like your optimism and practical nature is what makes people like you. One cannot always come up with solutions and it is completely human to run out of solutions for other people’s problems. One cannot always be clever and upbeat; it is fine to lose the heat at times when you feel down and not something to be insecure about.
You like to be the ‘not a hair out-of-place’ kind of person and keep your silly side a secret because that is what makes you feel insecure. You fear that if someone sees your easy side with your guard down, they will not respect you. At formal occasions, it is justified to feel that way but in everyday life, it is okay to not be poised and calm all the time. It is okay to lose your formal side and jump in the silly shoes for the sake of fun.
Your desires are your insecurities. You keep your wishes to yourself in fear of ‘looking bad’ in case you don’t get them. The fear of embarrassing yourself stops you from admitting to like things. When a person learns about your goals, you feel uncomfortable and insecure. This can be due to immense desire you have for the particular thing. The solution is to take that desire a little down and to not let it get on your head. When everything is mediocre and balanced, there are no fears and no insecurities.
Criticism is what makes you insecure. Even if it is constructive criticism, you have a hard time being judged therefore you try to stay away from situations where you know you will be assessed and commented on. You don’t like yourself being talked about so it can affect you for a long time if someone leaves a mild or judgmental comment on you or your work. The key is to be confident in yourself and only take people’s opinions into light when looking for outside help on your work or on yourself. Otherwise, do whatever pleases you as long as it is not terrorizing.
Source: Relationship Rules