You will probably have had the misfortune of knowing toxic people before. Yes, we are talking about those manipulative, judgmental, inconsiderate individuals. If you have had any experience with them, you’d know how hard it is to deal with them. You would probably wanna hear out what this Zen master on Reddit has to say about this. But before that, here are some traits of a toxic person.
They talk more than they listen
It is no big secret that toxic people indulge in casual narcissism. They consider themselves to be the center of all attraction.
They are always right
To them every opinion of yours is wrong and everything you say is right. They just won’t learn and are liable to react harshly if you say anything against them.
They never listen to anyone
Whenever there’s something wrong, even if you offer advice, they just won’t follow or even consider it.
They are always forcing relationships
For toxic people, relationships are more like a status symbol that they can flaunt about. Rather than actually enjoying someone’s company, they just enter a relationship for the sake of showing off.
The parameter for judging everything should be done by their experience
They believe that whatever they have experienced in life is how others must feel about it. There can just be no contrary opinion.
How a Zen Master recommends you respond to toxic people
The Zen Master in the reaction to a post on Reddit noted how to deal with these kinds of people:
“The deeper your present moment peace gets, the easier it’ll be to react non-passionately when confronted with hostility. As this gets better, you can begin to realize more deeply just how much someone has to be suffering internally in order to have such harsh reactions. With enough insight, you can develop your empathy and compassion based on this knowledge and these also help you remain even more peaceful in the present moment.
Eventually, with enough compassion and insight on your side, you can begin to extinguish the fires of hostility by extinguishing anger with patience and understanding… It’s hard to continue treating someone harshly when they continue treating you well. In helping them relieve these feelings, you not only help them but you also help yourself, since you no longer have to deal with them as they were.”
Written by Tomi – The Usual Routine
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