Sex is an integral part of a healthy relationship. Humans have evolved to have sex not just for reproduction but also for making strong intimate connection with their partners. But even after years of evolution, we still do not understand the act completely. Today are exposed to a lot of sex education and pornography and thus we make completely fantasized notions of sex and when the opportunity dawns on us to perform in bed, we fail!
But you can avoid these types of failure by understanding the general mistakes that couples make that ruin their sex lives.
Here is the list of 9 mistakes to avoid in bed.
BEING TOO PASSIVE DURING THE ACT
Sex is a two people game. Thus both of you have to be involved in the process. If one of you’ll just lie still passively, then the other person will burn out, mentally and physically. If you have ever had a one sided sex with someone, chances are you have never met them again, ever. If both the partners are involved in the act, the pleasure increases exponentially.
NOT GIVING THE FEEDBACK
Sex is a communication between two souls, thus even after the act you must communicate with each other about how it was. This will only help you to stay loyal and to enjoy better sex in future.
NOT CONSIDERING YOUR PARTNER’S VIEW ON CASUAL SEX
It is better to talk and be clear before the sex about what you expect from each other. If you want it as a one night thing, do not assume that the other person also thinks the same. Always communicate before the sex.
FORCING SEX TO HELP YOUR PARTNER
Sometimes we feel the need to boost up our partner’s mood. We think that sex can be a good tool for it, after all what is better than sex, right? No, Wrong!! Sex will not reduce the stress or boost the mood of your partner if it is forced on them. Let them choose if they want it or not.
NOT GIVING FOREPLAY TO THE PARTNER
Foreplay makes your partner feel special and desirable. Again, foreplay must be from both ends, it should never be a one person thing.
COMPLETELY SKIPPING THE FOREPLAY
Foreplay only from one partner is bad, but no foreplay at all is the worst mistake that you can ever make. Your readiness does not define your partner’s readiness. Give them some time and love to show their true self!
EXCESSIVE TALKING DURING THE ACT
Sex should be in the natural flow and too much talking can kill the flow. Thus, it can ruin the mood completely.
NOT SHAVING YOUR PUBIC HAIR
Personal hygiene is very essential for a good sex. An out of shape growth down there is enough to turn off your partner. Now, we are not telling you to keep it absolutely clean shaven, but you ‘must’ avoid too much hair there.
NOT DIFFERENTIATING BETWEEN SEX AND CUDDLING
This is not a horrible mistake but if you’ll do this, then your partner will not get close to you when not in mood of sex. Cuddles are great for connecting you emotionally. Do not kill them.