Sadly in many cases, women feel like they are a parent to their partners as well, and lack their support.
When this is the case, it drains the Mom’s energy and causes stress on a daily basis.
Marriage is as demanding as much as motherhood is for many women, and researchers have now found that an average mom rates her stress levels an 8.5 out of 10, and even 46% of the women involved in the study reported that their husbands are causing more stress than their children!
It’s Not The Kids… It’s Hubby!
Unfortunately, for many women, as demanding as motherhood can be, their husbands can have an even greater impact on their stress levels. In fact, a survey conducted by Today of over 7,000 moms found that the average mom rates her stress levels an 8.5 out of 10, and 46% of women say their husbands are causing more stress than their kids! Researchers summarized:
- Moms stress most about not having enough time in the day to do everything that needs to be done
- 3 in every 4 moms with partners say they do most of the parenting and household duties
- 1 in every 5 moms says not having enough help from their spouse is a major source of daily stress
In addition to this, researchers from the University of Padova found that after the death of their wives, the health of husbands deteriorates, while in the opposite case, when women lose their husbands, they actually become healthier and cope with depression and stress much easier.
This means that men actually relied more heavily on their wives.
To solve these problems, and reduce stress, there are more things which can help:
Firstly, partners should split their responsibilities, such as doctor appointments, organizing events as well as homework duties.
If this is not a possibility, start talking on the subject and explain to your husband about the stress that you are exposed to on a daily basis.
You can also make a to-do-list or a shared calendar.
In some cases, men would actually love to be the best father and husband in the world, but their wives do not trust them enough to give them important responsibilities.Therefore, resist the temptation to do all by yourself in order to be done “perfectly”, and ask your partner to step in and help with his contribution.
A lot of couples leave their relationship behind and mainly focus on being parents, which is not good.
Remember that you are partners and individuals too, so make sure you spend some time for yourself, and some time dedicated to your partner only.